Tops should be more considerate in their bookings – being an upfront adult can save everyone a lot of time and emotional energy. “I stand in solidarity with bottoms now more than ever.

We can feel your pain /JgDP6gmIChĪndy admitted that the experience of almost bottoming had changed him, hopefully for the better. Believe it or not, bottoms can be aggressive too. Follow his lead in form and position and mindfully tune into where you sense he is going. Now you know all the work that goes with being a bttm and how frustrating it is when tops don’t come through. A better method is to share power and control and let your bottom guide you towards what he wants. Many responses came from those who felt Andy’s bottoming pain, having been left with the same empty feeling of disappointment. “I’m pretty sure that means he murdered his roommate, but who knows!”Īlmost 250,000 people have watched Andy’s video – tops, bottoms and pseudo-bottoms alike. “An hour after we were supposed to meet (and after my stomach was full of tacos and guac) he texted me to say he had an ‘unforeseen roommate dispute and am no longer available’. A guy who identifies as mostly top found the shoe on the other foot after he spent hours preparing for bottoming, only to receive nothing but excuses.

He said that his would-be top stopped responding as soon as he’d arranged the hook-up.